I spent the weekend with my sister. If you are lucky enough to have a sister, and you are the best of friends, then you are tremendously blessed. My sister and I have been there for each other our whole lives. Not always living close in physical proximity, but always close in our hearts. We would do anything for each other.
But even if you don’t have a biological sister that you are close to, chances are, you belong to some kind of Sisterhood.
The really great thing about Sisterhoods is that they form naturally, even among women who seemingly have little in common. We are drawn together in churches, in neighborhoods, in book clubs, PTAs... even online. Sisterhoods can become so strong, they can last a lifetime.
It’s my theory that women need these Sisterhoods. Men need brotherhoods, too, but that’s another topic. We need to belong, to be loved, to be heard, and to have dear ones to love in return.
A Sisterhood is more than a friendship. Your sisters are your tribe. These are the people you can turn to when you’ve got great news, and know that they will cheer for you, and pour the champagne. You need not worry about petty jealousies, nor attempts to bring you down. Your tribe will celebrate you where you are strong.
You know you’ve found a true Sisterhood when you can also share your deepest sorrows, without fear of being poked at, taken advantage of, or passed off as too much effort. Your tribe will cover you where you are weak. They will rally to support you and love you until you are strong enough to do the same for someone else. That’s what Sisterhood is.
I’ve got a small circle of sisters who have helped me through the darkest times of my life, and I’d like to think that I’ve done the same for them. Y’all know who you are.
A larger Sisterhood comes in the form of my Bunco Sisters. We have been together for over nineteen years... through marriages and divorces, through graduate school and cancer... from births to empty-nesting, from great joy, to profound tragedy. And through it all, we’ve gotten together once a month and celebrated our Sisterhood with laughter (always with laughter) and food, and wine, and real talk.. authentic talk about our lives.
A beautiful Sisterhood has also formed at Lydia Fiedler's bi-annual Unwind Retreats in Austin, TX. While our Sisterhood is always ready and eager to welcome new members, many of us come time after time, and have become very close. Austin retreats feel like going home, and I anticipate seeing my tribe every time, with great enthusiasm and excitement. We stay in close contact between retreats, on Facebook, and through the cards we make and send to each other.
Recently, I was invited to a crafty get-together in Cincinnati, Ohio. And here’s where the crazy thing about Sisterhood comes in. Although we have crafting in common, we are a very diverse group of women, the vast majority of whom I had never met before I went to Cincinnati. And yet, within four days, I felt welcomed into that tribe of warm, fun-loving and talented women, as though I’d been part of the group all along. The outpouring of love and acceptance was mind-blowing, and I suspect that I will have some of my new sisters forever.
Sisterhood is powerful. It is not only possible... it is necessary. If you don’t currently find yourself within the loving embrace of a Sisterhood, let me know. I have lots of ideas about how Sisterhoods form, and why some work, and last, and why others don’t. And I would love to help you find a Sisterhood of your own. All it takes is an open heart, a loving spirit, a genuine, authentic way of being, and the desire to be part of something bigger than yourself. And it will be well worth it, because love makes life better. Love makes everything better.